Acknowledging the community that has provided these resources, Joel Heller for his exquisite collection of ever refining needs and feelings, the writers of the poetry, Jim + Jori for the liberation matrix, Miki Kashtan for her support in developing my resources, and the many folk unnamed that stand behind the rainbow of resources.

1. Objectively OBSERVING the situation (without evaluation, blame or moralistic judgement).

2. IDENTIFYING the feelings that the situation brings up,

3. DIGGING deeper to identify what need is or is not being met and

4. REQUEST actions that would better meet your need.